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2021.04.15 14:26 lien19 Journey reducing maladaptive daydreaming

Hi everyone,
Please read.
I am very pleased to have find this community. First of all let me introduce myself. I am female 20 years old (almost 21) living in a western European country but I myself am of middle eastern ethnicity. I have endured a lot of trauma and neglect in my youth years due to my insane father that abused and drained us (my mom , me and little sister) emotionally , and physically he was very verbally abusive and emotionally instable. At 11 years old my mother finally decided to divorce him, but that lead us to have years of an unpleasant divorce, court hearing, child services and all kind of organizations misunderstanding us and failing me and my little sister to get into an safe environment. I still had to go to my father every week. So I was one week there and one week at my mothers house. My mom was a good mom, just damaged and her self worth was very low bc of years with my dad. When I was at my dads house the only thing that Would help me escape reality was putting on music in my room , dancing and imagining scenario’s, apparently this is called maladaptive daydreaming . This started around the age of 11/12. I always thought it was normal and something younger people did. During this time it’s needless to say school was declining. I never did any homework or paid attention in class. All I did was escape reality since my life was a lonely hell during this time, with no friends, relatives. Just my crazy abusive dad , damaged mom, very little sister and all of the youth service’s and lawyers that didn’t listen. I was a smart girl growing up in elementary school and always had top grades, but the moment I went to highschool (in Europe it’s called highschool after American grade 6 , age 12) I didn’t do anything. And I always just thought it was me being lazy and paying more attention to fun stuff instead of important things so, I felt really bad for never achieving my capacity and reaching my ambitions. Because I do have a lot of ambitions. I graduated highschool way too late bc whenever I had to study I just started creating scenarios with music. Scenario in which I was desirable, pretty, skinny, wanted, amazing, achieved things. In hindsight these fantasies and daydreams which I wasted hours on a day would make me even more depressed, since my reality was much sadder and lonelier. fact is my life was tragic and I would do anything to escape that. Over the years because of my fathers house in which nothing was aloud, there was only anger and aggressiveness. emotions weren’t aloud and there was a huge culture of fear, I developed severe anxiety and depression. At a certain point around my 15th I left my dads house bc I thought to myself, either I’m going to kill myself or he is going to do it but one of us won’t come out alive. (He always threatened to kill himself to insert guilt) . since my sister was still under the age of 12 she had to keep going and didn’t have a say in it. I lived fulltime at my moms house and still underachieved tremendously bc I liked to escape in my own world. It was a habit, maybe even an addiction at this point. But I still thought. This is normal it’ll go away. My mom got cancer not too long after that and this caused me to mentally decline because it was a lot of stress to take in at this young age I never got any time to rest or develop. I always thought if this is over I can go one with my life, if the divorce ends I’ll be able to go on and live and go to school, if I am safe from my dad I’ll be able to move on and become the real me, if we stop having money problems life will get better and it’s my turn, if my mom grows to be happy then it’ll be my turn to develop, if my mom gets cured from cancer this will all be over and it will be my turn to reach my potential. But it doesn’t work that way I never processed all the trauma but I always thought to keep silent and keep pushing because I didn’t want to e seen as a victim or someone that wants attention and sympathy. I was even ashamed for myself and disgusted with my life and myself at this point. I developed an eating disorder next to it because that was one of the only things I DID have control over: my weight, my appearance. It didn’t help that whenever I lost weight guys thought I was attractive and wanted me and whenever I was heavier it seemed like I was invisible. Maybe this was in my head, maybe not. Anyway, Because I didn’t get a lot of recognition or sympathy during my childhood and teenage years I started searching for love wherever I could get it and in my head I thought this was the only thing that could save me . A man that would see the real me, my potential despite of my story and would go for me, life really doesn’t work this way and I need to do a lot of healing and growing before I am even ready for a relationship since my mental health and self worth is very bad. But I also was very closed of and distant I think in fear of getting hurt or abandoned so I didn’t really let a lot of people close. Around the age of 18 I did find nice friends that were understanding and caring and I still am lucky to be friends with them. I also met my best friend and we are together almost every day. (Which is also a little unhealthy maybe bc of abonnement issues and co dependency, but at least he is my friend and we get along amazing) They are even here in the lowest point of my life, not judging me, not thinking I’m insane. When I finally graduated highschool with a lot of difficulties around age 20 I finally thought things looked bright, my mental health was pretty stable, I got my driver’s license and I would go to college to study politics (I wanted to study psychology but i didn’t have the grades for that bc I failed every math class ever, since I never did homework) the other classes i was better in and managed to pass without studying since all my time would go to music and fantasies whenever I tried. In my first weeks in college I met a guy that was everything I thought I wanted. He studied his last year of psychology at uni and seemed very empathetic, charismatic, understanding and intelligent. He would listen and always made me feel better about myself. It seemed like he saw the real me and he was pursuing me hard. I had never been so in love like I was with him, I thought we were much alike since we were both empathetic and cared about a wide variety of subjects. He did go a little too fast and within the first week he said he never felt something like this, I was the one, he never knew what he wanted but with me he did finally and go on and go on. I was a little hesitant and more distant because that’s just how I am. And I did understand this was really intense maybe too intense, but I felt it too so I thought who else can judge except for me. If it feels right, it feels right and no relationship is the same. And since he did everything to win my trust I had no reason to doubt him. So I should go for it. I told him about my life and in his turn he told me about his hardships, we had alot of conversations about why we were the way we are and the future. It was hopefull. And sweet. He was frustrated that I was having a hard time trusting him and he really wanted to make sure I did, I never met a guy like that, that was also giving like me and I always thought I needed a taker and I would be the giver in the relationship until him and I was so in awe. He called me multiple times a day, texted me, made sure I ate and felt good, we talked hours a day about life and the world. My fantasies were suddenly reality and I thought the wait was finally worth it. This was everything I wanted. The relationship I had with my mom was bad and we fought a lot, every argument we had she would tell me I could leave her house, so I still felt really misunderstood and this guy gave me a safe place to be. What could go wrong, right ? Soon things changed when he told me he had doubts about getting into a relationship, he told me it wasn’t me but he always had a difficulty knowing what he wanted in life and if things didn’t go as planned he couldn’t deal with that. He didn’t know what overcame him since he really did like me and I had all those boxes he was looking for in a girl but getting into a relationship scared him a lot. We went a little back and forth and he told me he had to think. This really came out of the blue since the night before we called and laughed until four in the morning. I always told him to slow down and there was no need for rush or even thinking about a relationship and that he was the one applying all this pressure on to him. Despite all his doubts he really wanted to go for me he said bc he said he was the cause of his doubts and he couldn’t let someone like me go since it was magical or whatever. It seems like he really didn’t know what he wanted and had an ocd type like issue. At a certain point he said he felt the ✨ a little less and he didn’t know why that was. I think it was because I kept focusing on he doubts instead of living in the moment and seeing where things went. Because whenever he looked at me I could tell he was in love. His doubts didn’t go away and made him crazy so we called it off. I was heartbroken but I had hope somewhere he would come around and needed some time to think, I did too so I decided to didn’t speak to eachother for 3 months. In the meantime he messaged my best friend to make sure I was doing alright and saying he didn’t want to bother me because he felt like it was unfair to me if he messaged me and he also wasn’t ready still. so that was I confirmation to me that he cares and still thought of me too. In the meantime i couldn’t let go of him and I still had these fantasies, more than ever. I also quit college during this time. After almost three months I couldn’t take it and it felt like we had a lot of unfinished business, I didn’t understand how someone could be in love with you but still push you away. We also had a very heavy sexual tension. The last time we saw eachother he cried because we called it off then we kissed heavily, i slept over and the next day I left. So 3 months later I messaged him saying it was time to talk. He agreed and said he was on the verge of texting me too a few times. We met up the next day at my work and there was still a very heavy sexual tension. We laughed and talked for slot of hours but then he told me he was seeing someone and that it was casual and not the same as with me. He couldn’t explain why he called it off with me and said that it was just very intense and he didn’t feel like he was ready or something like that. But a real decent explanation never came. The sexual tension was so heavy everything we even looked at eachother that we almost had Sex but decided not to. At the end he just said to both go our own ways and that being friends wasn’t in it because this tension would re occur. I was heartbroken. Absolutely crushed. My mental health declined rapidly and I became very depressed and anxious more than ever. My hair fell out, i didn’t eat properly and I lost and gained a lot of weight. and it felt like I lost one of the only people that understood me, I felt turned down, worthless and I didn’t understand anything of it, but if he was happy with someone else then so be it since i cared for him. My maladaptive daydreaming would go on during this period. When I quit school I luckily did find a job in the bank where I would go to but even this was hard to maintain after our last conversation. The bond between me and my mom luckily did get better during this period since she was very worried for me and finally did see that I needed help to process everything in my youth and I couldn’t handle every day life like a regular person because of this. She was there next to me in my bed every morning and made me tea. She would turn the tv off to reduce triggers, make sure I was okay every way possible and searched for help along with me. 2 weeks after the conversation the guy texted me, he said stopped seeing the other girl. We started talking again. To make a long story short I went to his house that week and we had sex. He did tell me before that he still didn’t want a relationship so he warned me and I thought I could handle that. When we had sex it was all nothing like I imagined and he was very cold and distant, nothing like he was before. He didn’t even kiss me . He just came. And there I was lying underneath him realizing my self worth was so low that I would do this to feel appreciated or cared for . I really felt disgusting. I stayed over for a few more hours and we talked casually but it wasn’t like before and he all of a sudden was so distant. I asked him why he didn’t kiss me and he said he thought about it but he didn’t want to add the extra dimension to resist feelings. Since he was the type of person that had a lot of doubts I told him I hoped he wouldn’t regret it. I went home and the few days after that we texted. ( I texted) and he was just veryyyyyyy different and so cold. I felt even more worthless because I didn’t understand anything anymore. I knew he didn’t want a relationship but I really did think he cared. When I would ask him about this, he told me he didn’t know where it came from. He then texted me that he put the condom on wrong and he felt guilty for this, I had to get a plan b, we kinda panicked about this and he was really stressing out but at the same time didn’t really come with solutions. He knew my anxiety was bad so he texted me about it and called me and told me he just wanted to make sure I was okay and that i could talk to him about it if I wanted to, but for some reason it didn’t feel sincere. I left work early, got the plan b and sent him a long message about that it was time for me to let him go and Heal me and my family, I also said that I got him, I understood his reasons for not wanting a relationship and that I hoped that one day he would live his life without all of the doubts. He told me that things would get better in my life and I could call him if I wanted to talk. My bestfriend then after that sent him a pay request for the plan b since he thought it was rude for him not to pay. He payed and texted me sorry and that he forgot. We haven’t spoken since and I have doubted everything about me and my worth. I felt like if I was a little prettier maybe it would’ve worked or if I was a little less egotistical and didnt talk about myself all the time. Obviously probably none of this is true and it’s more about him lacking emotional maturity than anything I did. and My trauma started showing after I met this guy and all of this happend. Everything I ever repressed came out. All the skeletons came out the closet and I was and still am mentally very unstable. I have panic attacks every morning and feel very depressed and anxious. I did realize that the daydreaming was keeping me from living my REAL life and I also did realize I have a lot of stuff to work on. I hope that I will be admitted to a youth clinic within a few months but the waiting list is very long and my mental health is still very bad. My friends, mom and sister are there for me making sure i get through but with the COVID restrictions and triggers everything is even a little harder. I have nightmares about my dad and the trauma there and about this guy and I feel very sad for the way things ended. But it want all for the worse since i have grown a lot from it and did introspection within myself and my life. If I look back on me 6 months ago I was still the girl that thought she needed validation and love from others to be saved unconsciously and now I at least know that i have a lot of work to do. I hope that I can reduce the daydreaming since at least I had an epiphany moment about it. I hope that I can ever speak to the guy again without feeling bad but more in a friend like way since I do miss his friendship and I do care about him a lot. He lives in the same city I work in and go to with my friend every day so it’s inevitable I’ll see him. I just hope I get better. I’ll make a journey about reducing my daydreaming.
Thanks for reading
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I did not see a single "blue lightning" attack, the rage meter would fill and then drop to half. I could easily avoid attacks, and land hits, but that's of no use with four runic armor slots.
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Should I use a different follower?
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