2021.07.23 15:51 freakingoutsa I keep blaming my history with sexual assault for how I'm feeling, but I'm terrified to open up to him about it (TW)
TW: Sexual assault and abuse, suicidal ideation, detailed pornography description
I want to tell him so badly the deep, core issues of why his porn use hurts me. Yes, there's the feelings of betrayal and insecurity, but it goes so much deeper than that. I am terrified to open up to him about it because it will be that much more painful when/if he continues using.
When I was 4, I was introduced to sex by a family "friend". I saw things and did things that caused me to be hypersexual growing up.
10 years later, I was violently and brutally raped by strangers who recorded me. My hypersexuality died down for a couple of years, then came full surge when I was 16 and got a laptop. I discovered porn.
I became obsessed with trying to find the video of myself and ended up watching all kinds of disgusting videos in the process that only traumatized me further. I wouldn't watch to get off, but did eventually stop looking for my video and transitioned to more mild, passionate porn and used it as a masturbation tool a couple times a month up until a year ago when I started learning more about the industry and what it does to your brain.
I never did find my video, but the things I saw while looking for it is on the same shelf as the other stuff. I have a suspicion that my bf is into some hard-core stuff because any time I have overheard, I hear women screaming (in pleasure or pain, I cannot tell).
When I was 19, I was raped anally by a friend and also forced to swallow his cum on a different occasion. My bf has asked multiple times to cum in my mouth and to try anal. Both of which I've done with him one time, but felt so wrong about after that I say no now.
I want to explain these things to him so he understands why the porn is a serious issue and so he will stop asking me to swallow his cum and do anal, my answer will always be no and I know he wants those things because he sees them in porn. It makes me feel like I cannot satisfy him.
How could I frame this to him without causing him to feel defensive? Or is it a really bad idea to open up about this? This hurts and I don't know what to do. It feels impossible to fully heal from the trauma knowing he is watching porn and then asking me to perform the acts he sees. Ive been through therapy, but It just brings everything up over and over again.
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